Who is in charge – you or your mind?
Are you birthing or destroying?
Does your mind overrule you with doubt and fear?
Are you constantly striving for perfection?
Generally, perfectionism is regarded as a good quality to have but taken to the extreme, it can consume individuals and cause great unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
Perfectionism can be a hard taskmaster.
The exhausting need to strive for ‘high’ standards can result in feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and insecurity. Individuals become overwhelmed and anxious from their need to be/perform perfect believing their goals to constantly be out of reach. The immense effort, the need to strive for ‘better’ results often results in burnout.
Inevitably, perfectionism challenges most personal and professional relationships. Having to cope with the behaviour of illogical, dominant mind controlling behaviour is more than difficult. Relationships break down under the disappointment and expectations.
People and life in general, don’t ‘come up to scratch’ with a perfectionist – they are constantly looking for faults, or ways to improve a situation and seldom relax. It takes tons of patience and tolerance to live/work alongside a perfectionist. Their demands/expectations of others are so high, often impossible, and unreasonable. Perfectionists can give the impression nothing is right. Not satisfied with outcomes and over critical of self.
Perfectionists need to be in control of their circumstances and use unconscious, controlling methods to achieve their needs causing their partner/colleague to feel undermined, inadequate, and emotionally drained.
Overwhelmed with exhaustion from their efforts and their failure to achieve the impossible, for surely perfection doesn’t exist, perfectionists often stop trying for feel of failing. Eventually, depression, sabotage, subjugation and ‘playing the victim’ can become underlying dominant factors.
Perfectionism stems from an individual’s disappointments in life.
Not only are they hard taskmasters to themselves, but they can also overshadow others’ achievements with irrational, overbearing extreme criticism and ridicule of even the simplest task. The need for order of their home/workplace overrides the analytic mind – their obsession ‘leads the way’ at all times. Extreme cases lead to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and worse, Obsessive Compulsive Personality
Perfectionists make a rod for their own back, make more work for themselves as others ‘can’t do it right’ so they need to ‘take over’ the task. Their irrational behaviour leads to isolation and challenges personal relationships. Their mind sees other people as living flawed, disordered lives, imperfections that simply cannot be tolerated by a perfectionist’s mind.
The daft thing is that nothing is perfect, even in those who live by perfectionism.
Perfectionists are rigid in thought and action. Instead of bending and weaving through life, their behaviour becomes stoic and rigid with fixed, immoveable outlooks and actions.
There is no accounting for how the mind works, we are each conditioned in our own unique way.
In reply to the question “What does perfectionism do to you?” clients describe “feelings of isolation, stagnant energy”. Behind the behaviour of the perfectionist is a deep fear of failure, of not ‘getting it right’. They have a fear of punishment and of criticism but ironically, perhaps defensively, they can give it out, easily.
The archetypal behaviour of a perfectionist displays in patterns seeped in fear and vulnerability, formed from unhappiness. This can be linked to the martyr, sacrifice and slave consciousness. Archetypal patterns and mind dominance control us more than we appreciate ruling us daily and taking the enjoyment out of life.
Perfectionism has roots in conditioning and authoritive environments, parents and/or criticism from a young age, sometimes in families seeped in historical military, ritual, and religion. The ‘perfectionist’ and ‘pleaser’ often go hand in hand. The more we strive for perfection, the more brainwashed we become, trapped in a narrow world of mind dominance, unable to see outside of the box, locked in and controlled by a deep, over-analytical mind.
The brainwashing power of media, the internet and television keep people constantly unhappy and dissatisfied with life.
We don’t realise the power of the mind or the subconscious traits we automatically give credence to. It is time to reclaim your power and get back in the driving seat of your mind.
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